Destiny means- The inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined; one’s lot.
In certain seasons of my life figuring out “my destiny” caused sleepless nights and anxiety. Maybe this question gives you anxiety even now because you’re not sure how to answer it. Maybe you don’t know exactly what the future is meant to look like for you.
Good news, that’s ok.
Up until recently if someone were to ask me: “What’s your destiny?” or “Why were you born?”- My mind would have automatically gone to all the things I know that God’s called me to do… I’m called to preach and train leaders and plant churches in Europe and blah blah blah….. but really those things aren’t my destiny at all, they are actually my calling. I’m not sure if I truly understood that there’s a difference between the two.
Our function, or calling, in the body of Christ comes to fruition because we are already fulfilling our destiny… and our destiny is extremely easy to know. Here it is: It’s to become like Jesus. The Apostle Paul explains this in Romans 8:29: “For God knew his people in advance, and he chose them to become like his Son…”.
It’s actually that simple. This is our focus and benchmark of success as Christians. Many of us are so focused on our calling (what we’ve been born to do) that we completely ignore who we’ve been born to be! The thing is, we can’t ever do the things we’re meant to do until we are the person God had in mind to do those things. Many times when we think we are waiting for God, God is actually waiting for us.
What does it mean to become like Jesus? When we are baptized in the Holy Spirit we start a process of allowing ourselves to be transformed by Him from the inside out. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us exactly what we should be measuring in our lives to know if we are allowing Him to do His work:
“…the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”
Just as we can determine the type of tree by the fruit growing on it, we can also measure the depth of our relationship with Jesus by the “fruit” growing in our lives.
In addition to developing fruit in our lives, the Holy Spirit also gives us gifts like healing or teaching, but these are given to help us serve humanity and fulfill our calling. We are released to operate in these gifts with maturity when the fruit of our relationship with God (aka- The Fruit of the Spirit) is evident in our lives. This can also be described as character. God opens doors for us to do things for Him because we represent Jesus well.
Jesus was perfect… that’s kind of a high threshold, but don’t be deterred. The point isn’t perfection! The point is that we are always in the process and taking stock of our hearts. If we find an area that isn’t advancing, than it’s likely a signal that there’s something in our heart that needs healing. God is so faithful to help us understand what needs to be healed and how we can receive that healing. Isn’t that amazing?
The only prerequisite for fulfilling the calling on your life is your ever-increasing commitment to become like Jesus.